Coaching is too often about ego. I remember going to a camp one year and playing a team in a very close game. We were at some remote gym and our teams were the only teams there (plus a couple of parents). The coach of the team was calm and seemed very patient with the kids.
A few hours later, the same team with the same coach were playing at the big gym with several other teams and coaches watching. This same calm, patient coach was ranting and raving up and down the sidelines going off on his girls.
What struck me is how this man changed his personality in front of the crowd. He wanted everyone to know what a tough coach he was. He wasn't going to let anything by him. He ran a tight ship. His girls must have thought he was schizophrenic.
I made a vow to myself that I would always act the same with the girls. This was not about getting other coaches to respect me. It was about the needs of my girls and the needs of my team. Sure, there are going to be times when I get mad or act silly, but the outsiders shouldn't affect how I act.
That brings me to last night. We lost a game we shouldn't have lost. I was very upset. I said some mean things to the girls (which were probably deserved) and then I spent the rest of the evening pouting. Then I realized how I was doing the same thing as that coach. What's bothering me is that other people will think I am doing a bad job and I won't get the respect that I want. Well, I am going to try to let that go.
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